An affair to remember

Me-TV Summer of Classic TV Blogathon: Family Affair

I’ve got a confession to make: I’m having an affair. No, I’m not talking about some illicit rendezvous in a sleazy motel. In fact, some might even describe this affair as wholesome. I’m sure you know where I’m going with this. My affair is with Family Affair!

Yes, Family Affair, the show about a swinging bachelor whose life is turned upside down when he unexpectedly becomes guardian to his orphaned nieces and nephew. The show airs weekdays at 7 a.m. on Me-TV.

Let’s get started by watching the opening credits, with music composed by Frank De Vol, who also composed the themes for The Brady Bunch, My Three Sons, and Gidget. The shimmering kaleidoscope background underscores the fact that Family Affair was one of the earliest color TV shows.

Family Affair opening credits

Now, let’s meet our characters and the actors who play them: First off, there’s Uncle Bill (aka “Uncle Beel,” for reasons I’ll get to), an engineer who travels to exotic locations all over the world for complex construction projects. At the start of the series, he lives alone in a swanky Manhattan apartment with his manservant. After all, a single man who’s never home and has no kids or pets or plants still needs full-time domestic help. Someone has to take in the mail. The sprawling apartment has masculine wood paneling to make sure we understand that it is indeed a bachelor pad.

Uncle Bill is played by the ruggedly handsome Brian Keith, who in 1961 starred in the original version of The Parent Trap with Hayley Mills. Keith apparently studied the Touch Your Face method of acting, because he touches his face constantly, not just as Uncle Bill, but in every role I’ve ever seen him play. He relies on this device to show irritation, deep thought, resignation, exasperation, anger, and a host of other emotions. Sometimes he starts with his palm on his forehead and slides it downward. Other times he touches two fingers to his temple. I’ve also seen him scratch his ear and wipe his nose. And it’s not just because I happen to work in public health that I feel compelled to mention: That’s a great way to spread flu germs! Or get zits.

Is there something on my face?

There’s something else about Brian Keith, and it’s the elephant in the room: his toupee. As a child, I never noticed his rug, but as an adult, it’s ridiculously obvious. For one thing, the hair on top is a different color than the sides. TheDamienZone offers a story about Brian Keith’s vanity disrupting the shooting schedule and doubling the budget for The Parent Trap. The story alleges that Keith insisted an extra scene be added to the film showing him emerging from a lake with his hair intact, proving that it’s his own. I’m not sure if this is satire or just gossip—it doesn’t really ring true—but it’s a funny story anyway.

This is what a wet toupee looks like. Brian Keith and Hayley Mills in The Parent Trap (1961)
This is what a wet toupee looks like. Brian Keith and Hayley Mills in The Parent Trap (1961)

sebastian cabot as mr frenchUncle Bill’s “gentleman’s gentleman” is Mr. French, a stout, stuffy, bearded Brit, who, at the start of the series, does not seem overly fond of children. He’s a delightful foil to the syrupy youngsters. As far as I’m concerned, he makes the series. Mr. French is played by the great Sebastian Cabot, who imbues the character with a wonderful dryness and dignity, despite the indignities inflicted on him as unwilling nanny to the little urchins. My belief in Sebastian Cabot’s awesomeness was cemented when I heard this non-Family Affair spoken performance of Bob Dylan’s “It Ain’t Me Babe.”

Sebastian Cabot gives a spoken-word performance of Bob Dylan’s “It Ain’t Me Babe” (1967). It’s from an entire album of Cabot reciting Dylan songs.

The eldest of the three minors left in Uncle Bill’s care is doe-eyed ingénue Cissy, played by Kathy Garver. Twenty years old when she started playing 15-year-old Cissy, Garver had some impressive acting credits. She was a slave girl in ancient Egypt when God gave Charlton Heston The Ten Commandments. She also had a part in The Bad Seed as one of the main character’s classmates. I saw her a few years ago at San Francisco’s Castro Theater, where she made a guest appearance with The Bad Seed’s star, Patty McCormack, at a special screening of the classic film. It was a campy good time, with Garver judging a Bad Seed lookalike contest.

Left: Charlton Heston (Moses) and young Kathy Garver in The Ten Commandments (1956). Right: Kathy Garver as Cissy on Family Affair (1969).

Cissy’s younger siblings are six-year-old fraternal twins Jody and Buffy, who are your typical ’60s family-sitcom moppets. In real life, Anissa Jones, who plays Buffy, was more than a year older than Johnny Whitaker, who plays her twin brother Jody. That’s what I call a long labor. Jones is also a much better actor and outshines Whitaker in all their shared scenes. Whitaker seems to have some sort of mild speech impediment and pronounces his uncle’s name as “Uncle Beel.” Whenever Uncle Bill enters the swanky bachelor pad, the twins come rushing up to greet him, squealing “Uncle Beel, Uncle Beel!”

mrs beasley doll collector
Mrs. Beasley doll collector Keith Knight with part of his collection

Buffy’s constant companion is a creepy, bespectacled doll named Mrs. Beasley, who sometimes is the focus of the plots (e.g., Mrs. Beasley gets lost; Uncle Bill worries that Buffy thinks Mrs. Beasley is real; Mrs. Beasley’s arm gets broken.) The doll became very popular at the time and is now a collector’s item. Apparently, most of the them have lost their trademark eyewear over the years, so the glasses are rare. Poor Mrs. Beasley is nearly blind without them.

Kathy Garver and Mrs. Beasley
“Watch me on Me!”

Mrs. Beasley is also featured prominently in Me-TV’s Family Affair promos. Now, I’m sure our blogathon sponsor, Me-TV, won’t mind some gentle criticism: The promo where present-day Kathy Garver sits with Mrs. Beasley on her lap and intones that we should watch her on Family Affair is even creepier than Mrs. Beasley herself. Garver comes across as the crazy old aunt who’s hidden away in the attic, surrounded by mementos of her youth. I’d hate to think that’s how Cissy wound up.

Today, Garver and Whitaker are the only two surviving members of the core cast. Jones died tragically of a drug overdose at age 18; Keith of a self-inflicted gunshot wound at age 75; and Cabot died of a stroke at age 59.

Favorite Family Affair Moment #1: The Bite

Aunt Fran
Aunt Fran: The Devil wears a pillbox hat

Family Affair’s characters are well developed right from the start; this isn’t one of those series that takes awhile to hit its stride. In fact, one of my favorite moments in the series is in the pilot episode. To set the stage: Buffy has been living in Terre Haute, Indiana, with her Aunt Fran and Uncle Harold following her parents’ death in an accident a year earlier. Uncle Harold and Buffy “don’t get along” (which is disturbingly vague), so Aunt Fran dumps Buffy with Uncle Bill and then vanishes. We don’t know about the existence of Cissy and Jody yet, but they’ve been staying with other relatives. Aunt Fran, by the way, is played by Louise Latham, who was Tippi Hedren’s dreadful mother in the Hitchcock film Marnie. She is really good at portraying unlikable women.

The great moment comes when Mr. French tries to escort newly arrived Buffy out to the terrace. He says to her in a condescending, British sort of way, “Don’t just stand there like a little clot”—and she just runs up to him and bites his leg like a rabid dog. The unexpectedness of the bite is pretty great, but it’s Sebastian Cabot’s reaction as Mr. French that really makes this memorable.

“Oh, sir!” he complains to Uncle Bill. “I gave her absolutely no provocation to fasten her little teeth in my gastrocnemius muscle!” Uncle Bill, apparently unconcerned about French’s wound, asks him to bring Buffy some milk and cookies. “Cookies, sir?!” says Mr. French, incredulous that the imp would be rewarded for her actions. Better get used to it, French—you’ll be waiting on her and calling her “Miss Buffy” from now on. One can only assume he gets a tetanus shot offscreen. Watch the scene at the 7:00 mark below. (You might notice that it’s a different Mrs. Beasley in the clip; I guess the role was recast after the pilot.)

Family Affair series pilot (Sept. 12, 1966)

Favorite Family Affair Moment #2: The Snood

It’s no coincidence that another of my favorite Family Affair moments also centers on Mr. French. It takes place in the Season 3 episode titled “A Matter of Privacy.” That’s “privacy” pronounced the British way, with a short “i”. In this one, Buffy and Jody, egged on by a no-good friend, Norman, bug the apartment and tape-record Mr. French making a private phone call to order a very personal item.

“Well you see, this is a rather personal matter, and one that is not easily discussed without some embarrassment…

“I should like to inquire concerning the purchase of a beard snood… A beard snood… Well, perhaps that is not the exact title.

“You see, sir, one of my distinguishing features is a rather full set of whiskers. On occasions, I’ve awakened with it in classic disarray. And it occurred to me that I might purchase something similar to, well, a woman’s hairnet, to be worn in the privacy of my bed-chamber, thus keeping my hirsute adornments in order throughout the night.”

The twin scamps and their loser friend listen to the tape of Mr. French’s very personal call and giggle in a mechanical way that tells me they are simply laughing on cue and have no idea what they’re laughing about. Uncle Beel finds them and is disappointed. Norman, the trouble-making friend, is unrepentant, but he gets his comeuppance later when he finds out via tape-recording that his parents are divorcing. I guess the trouble at home is supposed to excuse his misbehavior.

Buffy, Jody and friend with tape recorder

Brady Bunch fans will remember that Peter Brady misused a tape recorder two years later in “The Private Ear” and got his comeuppance as well. In his case, his siblings tricked him into thinking Mom and Dad were throwing him a surprise party to celebrate his getting an “A” in geometry. That’s why you should never give your kids one of those newfangled tape recorders. I confess that I committed a copycat crime with my own cassette recorder; I’m sure I’m not the only kid who did. But I never got my comeuppance… at least, not yet.

We never find out whether Mr. French succeeds in finding a beard snood. It’s a loose end. The viewer is left to wonder.

beard snood
Yes, there really is such a thing.

Now, here’s a little tangent about snoods. Beard snoods actually exist; today, Mr. French could just order one online and spare himself all that embarrassment. In fact, there is a Beard Snood Appreciation Society page on Facebook, but it’s an archived group that only has four members now. I had a beard for a while when I was in college and never once felt the need for a snood to keep it in order. Getting food stuck in my hirsute adornments was a bigger problem. Perhaps I could have used a beard bib. Hey, maybe I should patent that idea. Oh, too late, someone beat me to it.

With Six You Get Eggroll movie ad“Snood” is one of my favorite words, but I have really only ever heard it used on two occasions. The first was the Family Affair episode I’ve just described, and the other was in the 1968 movie With Six You Get Eggroll, starring Doris Day and—brace yourself for an amazing coincidence—Brian Keith! You see, Doris is preparing for a party at her house, to which she has invited Brian Keith as her date. Wouldn’t you know, the dog gets a hold of her wig, and it winds up looking like a wet gopher. Her own hair, incidentally, looks fine to me, but it hasn’t been styled and set. What should Doris do? Her maid, played by Alice Ghostley (who played “Esmeralda” on Bewitched), suggests, “Couldn’t you kind of push it up — do you have a snood?” Doris has obviously never heard that word before and gives her a WTF look before answering that she doesn’t have “one of those.”

My question is, why do people feel compelled to wear snoods when they are in proximity to Brian Keith? Or for that matter, wigs? Is it somehow related to Keith’s toupee and insecurity about his own hair?

Scarred for Life

Buffy and Jody in back window of busThere’s an image emblazoned on my mind. A little boy and girl are looking out the back window of a bus, terrified and helpless, as they are sped away from the adult who is responsible for their care. I’m talking about “Lost in Spain”! (Not to be confused with Lost in Space, another show on the Me-TV schedule that I almost wrote about.)

The three-part “Lost in Spain” episode was traumatizing to me as a five-year-old. It starts off innocently: Uncle Bill must go to Barcelona for three months to work on another of his glamorous construction projects. That’s an awfully long time to leave the kids, so Uncle Bill packs up all three of them and Mr. French and takes them to Spain with him. At first it’s great fun as they enjoy the sights of Barcelona. Cissy has an attractive admirer, and the kids like their Spanish tutor. (Two episodes later, Jody can’t speak a word of Spanish to his visiting pen-pal from Bolivia.)

The trouble starts when Mr. French takes Buffy and Jody on a trip to the seaside resort of Sitges. To get there, they must take a bus to San Juan and then transfer to another bus. As they board the second bus, Buffy remembers that she left Mrs. Beasley on the first bus, still parked right behind them. Mr. French instructs them to board the bus while he goes back for Mrs. Beasley. As he heads back, the doors to the second bus close and it pulls away, with Buffy and Jody on board!

Lost in Spain End of Part 1

The faces of terror! And with that, I am scarred for life.

The Family Affair Theme Song Challenge

It’s time for the closing credits. A theme song as lively as Family Affair’s should have words, don’t you think? I’ve taken a hand at writing some, and I challenge you to do the same! I’ve used the closing theme, since it is longer and has more verses.

Oh yes it’s such a fam’ly affair
Here come the twins, they’re such a cute pair
Poor Uncle Beel is losing his hair
Well don’t you know…

That Mr. French is wearing his snood
It puts him in a marvelous mood
So why not take the boisterous brood
And off we’ll go…

To have a fam’ly affair
We’ll have a fam’ly, a fam’ly affair!

My sister contributed this one: “Oh, Cissy makes me want to go puke/Who does she think she is—Patty Duke?”

But perhaps you can come up with a Cissy line that’s less hostile. And there are other characters who deserve a mention: Miss Faversham, Mrs. Beasley… Please write your own lyrics and post them in the comments. I know you’re clever enough!

This post is part of Me-TV’s Summer of Classic TV Blogathon hosted by the Classic TV Blog Association. Go to to view more posts in this blogathon. You can also go to to learn more about Me-TV and view its summer line-up of classic TV shows.



  1. Love, love, love this post! It’s hilarious, especially your theme song lyrics!

    The only I sort of disagree with is the relative acting talents of Anissa Jones and Johnnie Whitaker. Jones always seems slightly forced to me, while Whitaker has a nice natural quality that helps to overcome the fact that he gets the dumber lines.

  2. OMG, I loved this show! This was a great post. Personal but also full of great info. My heart beats wildly for Brian Keith, although I have to admit, I had no idea that was a toupee. Also, thank you for mentioning With Six You Get Eggroll. One of my favorite films!

    Loved your article!

    • Thanks, Amanda! In With Six You Get Eggroll, I’m especially fond of the club scene where The Grassroots perform, and Doris Day spots Brian Keith with Barbara Hershey and says with resignation, “Why shouldn’t he go out with a young chick? Why take a bus when you can fly?”

  3. The day after “Family Affair” premiered it was an instant hit and the talk of the schoolyard. We all called it the “Buffy and Jody Show”. Everybody loved Mr. French. For years I called John Williams (“Dial M for Murder”), who briefly replaced Cabot when he was ill, the “other Mr. French”. Yeah. John Williams is such a difficult name to remember!

    Your look at a show we can’t help but recall fondly was fun.

    • Thanks, Patricia! I had a Buffy & Jody wristwatch I used to wear on the playground. It was designed to teach children to tell time — a vanishing skill now that kids have cellphones. John Williams was a good actor, but Sebastian Cabot’s Mr. French was really the glue that held the show together, in my opinion.

  4. I always liked Brian Keith in this role. His home may have been overrun with children and his lifestyle turned upside down, but he remains such a solid presence – very masculine, very much the figure these kids would have needed. And you’re right about Sebastian Cabot – he displays both dignity and humanity. He was also the best thing, IMHO, about another show in which he appeared: Checkmate.

  5. Michael, this was easily the comprehensive article I’ve read on FAMILY AFFAIR, full of facts I didn’t know! When you pointed out how Brian Keith touches his face, it reminded me of Steve McQueen in the movie THE MAGIFICENT SEVEN. He adjusts his hat all the time–in an apparent attempt to attract attention. It was one of those things, like Brian Keith, that you rarely notice until someone points it out. I agree about Sebastian Cabot, a fine supporting actor who anchors FAMILY AFFAIR for me. And yes, Louise Latham was one of cinema’s worst mothers in MARNIE–talk about creepy! A fine addition to the Me-TV blogathon.

  6. HA! You’re a lyricist too! 😀 Fantastic post. O LOVED this show when I was a kid! Cissy always got on my nerves. I never found Mrs. Beasley creep – then – but I DO NOW!! AND, WHAT? Brian Keith wore a toupe? I never noticed. Man, you have a way of bursting bubbles!


  7. I only watched this show periodically, but I learned a lot from your well-written post with lots of background details. I liked the tape recorder misuse angle and remember the similar Brady Bunch incident quite well.

  8. Keith apparently studied the Touch Your Face method of acting, because he touches his face constantly

    He studied at the feet of the Master, Milburn Stone from Gunsmoke.

    Back in the day, when cable had yet to be invented and there were only three channels, my sister Kat loved this show. I mean, loved it. We only had the one TV set, and I was forced to make occasional concessions by agreeing to let her watch it.

    Unfortunately, I was dragooned into watching it with her (something about the threat of no dessert…it’s all a blur, really) and I learned to loathe this program. Loathe it. Sebastian Cabot was the series’ one saving grace. I never had use for those mewling kids (“Uncle Beeeel! Uncle Beeeel”) and as for Brian Keith…well, not only was he touching himself inappropriately but he also phoned it in most of the time (he did the series using “the MacMurray method,” which meant he filmed all of his scenes in advance).

    Here’s the odd thing: I bought all five seasons of this show on DVD. Clearly I need help. Thanks for a wonderfully snarky post.

  9. This is positively eerie!! We practically wrote the same stuff on this show! If I had known you done all the leg-work..I would of just snitched some of your facts. Okay, okay, maybe I wouldn’t of stooped that low anyway ( hmmm, I wonder ). Great post and I loved your bit about the beard snood. They really should of shown Mr. French wearing it, at least in ONE episode.

    • Great minds think alike! I love your post. It’s very in-depth, and you covered a lot of stuff I didn’t. I almost mentioned the Mr. French beard-clipping episode and Cissy hippie episode too.

  10. Though I didn’t watch “Family Affair” much, I remember it well enough to know you’re dead right that Sebastian Cabot made the show. And I’ve seen Brian Keith in one or two things besides this series – enough to be familiar with his irritating penchant for the face-touching approach to acting. Worse, though, his toupee…yes, it was always the elephant in any room – or in front of any camera. Didn’t much care for the child actors, either…HOWEVER, I thoroughly enjoyed your very amusing reflection on the show.

  11. Hi Michael!
    I’m only now getting into Family Affair reruns (it’s on the Decades channel by me)….Now how I got to you was when I googled, “How do 6 yr old actors memorize their lines”?….and specifically was thinking of Anissa Jones who played an excellent Buffy…I’ll have to be aware now to look for Brian Keith touching his face…
    Anyways….glad I bumped into your page….you are a very very funny person:)

    • Thanks, Lyn! You’re lucky to have Decades. We used to have Decades, MeTV, and Antenna TV in my area, and now all three are gone from our cable line-up. But at least I have my memories of Buffy biting Mr. French.

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